GETTING ANAL ABOUT THE BACK DOOR

There is  something to be said about back door play and sex and before you start getting revolted this is a form of pleasure that some people enjoy and even others remain curious about.


Perhaps your significant other raised the topic or asked the question and you know nothing about it. Never fear, in this article we share the five most important factors to consider when thinking about or exploring anal play or sex.


1. Communication 

It's important to discuss the where, the when, the how (which is very important...Like which position is best. i.e. For beginners start with anal massage and the person being penetrated should be on top to control the pace and depth of the penetration).


2. Relaxation

If you don't feel ready mentally and emotionally to try it out you will inadvertently tense up. This will create an unpleasant experience. So relaxing before and during penetration is important.  Try out meditation or have your partner give you a  body massage to help you relax.


3. Lubrication

Your 'back door' does not self lubricate so if frontal penetration can be painful without lubricant, so will anal penetration. A lubricant is an absolute must. Water based lubricants can work if only temporarily, but silicone lubricant is best as it doesn't absorb as quickly into the skin if at all.


4. Hygiene

Another important factor to remember is hygiene. Wash your hands before and after finger penetration and always use a condom during anal penetration. Once penetration occurs anally, do not penetrate vaginally or orally afterwards unless the condom is removed or you have washed the toy or penis thoroughly especially if not using a condom.


5. Start slow

For absolute beginners, massage externally around the anal area then working your way in over time is recommended. Start with a back massage and work your way down allowing your partner to feel relaxed (remember #2 above), then stroke and massage the cheeks then slowly and smoothly massage the crack and gently massage the anus (without penetrating) all while communicating (asking questions like, "does this feel good? Do you like the pressure? Would you like lighter or stronger pressure?"). When your partner is ready, start penetration with your finger (gradually over time you can move on to 2 and 3 fingers, but please remember to use a condom - there are finger condoms available in selective shops and pharmacies - and eventually a toy or penis).


Remember the idea is pleasure so remember to kiss parts of your partner's body as you massage. Whisper into your partner's ear (communicate to maintain trust and ease). Anal play and anal sex is more about the journey than the destination.


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